If you’re feeling overwhelmed by all the birth advice (or wondering why no one’s talking about certain things), take a deep breath — you’re not alone. As a Tampa newborn photographer who also has a background in neonatal therapy, I’ve supported many families through these early chapters — both in the delivery room and in the quiet moments that follow. I want you to feel informed, supported, and grounded in your choices.
Here are 10 things your doctor might not bring up — but they’re powerful, confidence-building insights you deserve to know. (And if any of these speak to you, bring them up at your next appointment — your voice matters.)
1. There are safe, well-supported options outside of the hospital — for some births.
While hospital births are the most common and often necessary for high-risk pregnancies, there are instances where delivering at home or in a birth center may be a safe and empowering option — if you’re having a low-risk pregnancy and are working closely with a trusted care team. Some families appreciate the calm, private environment of a home or birth center birth, which can offer a more personalized experience.
But this is not a decision to make on your own. Always talk with your OB, midwife, and doula to ensure this path is safe for you and your baby. Each pregnancy is different — and your birth plan should be rooted in the guidance of experienced professionals who know your specific needs.
Ask your provider: If I’m considered low risk, would you be supportive of me working with a home birth or birth center team?
As a Tampa newborn photographer, I’ve had the honor of documenting babies born in hospitals, birth centers, and at home — and the common thread in every beautiful birth story is this: a well-supported mama who felt safe, seen, and prepared.
2. There are more pain relief options than just an epidural.
Epidurals are common, but not your only choice. Think nitrous oxide, spinal blocks, hypnobirthing, massage, and acupuncture. The key is understanding your options before you’re in labor, so you can advocate for what feels best.
Ask your provider: What other pain relief methods do you see work well for your patients?
3. Yes, you can bring music to your birth.
Whether it’s your wedding playlist, ocean sounds, or calming affirmations, sound shapes atmosphere. Music can ground you, relax you, and even energize you through contractions. Don’t underestimate the power of your favorite vibes.
Ask your provider: Can I bring music or use a sound machine during labor?
4. Water can be incredibly soothing during labor.
Birthing pools, showers, or even a warm bath can relieve tension and offer comfort during contractions. Water also gives you more freedom to move — which can help baby descend and progress labor.
Ask your provider: Are there birthing pools or water options available where I’m delivering?
5. You’ll probably poop during labor — and it’s totally okay.
Let’s normalize it: it’s part of the process and means you’re using the right muscles. Nurses and doctors expect it and handle it without a blink. This is not the moment to worry about modesty — it’s the moment to bring life into the world.
6. You’re not limited to lying on your back.
Hands and knees. Squatting. Standing. Side-lying. The way you position yourself can ease pain and help baby rotate and descend. Many mamas I photograph are surprised how movement shifts everything.
I’ve seen Tampa moms labor beautifully in upright positions — especially supported squats or on hands and knees — that helped them feel more in control and connected.
Ask your provider: What birth positions do you typically support in your practice?
7. Doulas are magical — and not just for the birth itself.
A doula offers continuous support — emotional, physical, and informational — during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. They’re your personal advocate and calming presence, helping you navigate birth with strength and clarity.
Ask your provider: Do you often work with doulas? Is there anyone you recommend locally?
8. Yes, you can eat and drink in labor (in many cases).
Keeping your energy up is key. A light snack or electrolyte drink might be exactly what you need. Just ask your provider about their specific guidelines.
Ask your provider: Under what conditions would I not be allowed to eat or drink during labor?
9. Your mindset matters — a lot.
Breathing, visualization, and relaxation techniques can shift the whole tone of your labor. Tools like hypnobirthing, meditation, and movement help reduce stress hormones and increase endorphins.
Practicing now — even a few minutes a day — can help you tap into calm, even when things feel intense. It’s not about staying perfectly “zen,” but about having tools that support your nervous system.
In fact, as a Tampa newborn photographer, many of the families I serve tell me how powerful mindset work was in preparing them not just for birth, but for the emotional transition into parenthood.
Ask your provider: What can I be doing now to prepare emotionally and mentally for labor?
10. C-sections can be beautiful, too.
While not always part of the original plan, cesarean births can be just as sacred and empowering. Knowing what to expect ahead of time can help you feel more in control if it becomes necessary.
Ask your provider: In what situations do you typically recommend or perform C-sections?
You’re already doing an incredible job, mama.
No matter what your birth looks like — hospital, home, medicated, unmedicated, cesarean, spontaneous, or planned — the most important thing is that you feel supported and respected.
As a Tampa newborn photographer, I see the afterglow of birth in every session. The tender looks. The strength in your eyes. The quiet pride. And I want you to know this: you are powerful, capable, and worthy of a birth experience that honors you.
If you’re preparing for birth and thinking about newborn photos, I’d love to help you plan a session that feels aligned with your heart and your journey. I offer a full-service, relaxed experience designed to celebrate the magic of your growing family — and make your life just a little easier in the process.
